Nilai Sakinah, Mawaddah, dan Rahmah  dalam Q.S. Ar-Rum Ayat 21: Sebuah Interpretasi  untuk Penguatan Keluarga Muslim Indonesia

Muhammad Hafis; Juliani Syafitri

Authors

Muhammad Hafis UIN Sunan Kalijaga Yogyakarta
Juliani Syafitri Universitas PTIQ Jakarta

Keywords:

Sakinah, Mawaddah, and Rahmah, Structural-Functional, Strengthening, Family, Contemporary

Abstract

Abstract: The ideal family in Islam (sakinah, mawaddah, and rahmah) is often a slogan without real implementation, with family disharmony often stemming from a misunderstanding of the purpose of marriage. This study aims to analyze the implementation of this concept through structural-functional theory, which views the family as a basic social institution consisting of interrelated parts (members) that perform important functions. Using a qualitative-descriptive method based on literature review, this study finds that realizing the ideal family requires a solid structure in the form of intentions, goals, guidance, and continuous improvement of family quality. The analysis shows that the values in Q.S ar-Rum: 21 require structural-functional support such as cooperation, synergistic division of roles, and shared responsibility to become the foundation of a harmonious family. However, in the Indonesian context, the main challenge is the gap between the norm of partnership (mu'asyarah bil ma'ruf) and community practices that are still rigid in their interpretation of gender roles (husband and wife). This study concludes that the integration of a deep understanding of Q.S ar-Rum: 21 with a structural-functional approach is an effective way to build the resilience of Muslim families that is not only normatively ideal, but also functional and adaptive in the reality of contemporary society. This study emphasizes the importance of integrating the theological foundations of Q.S ar-Rum: 21 with structural implementation that emphasizes partnership so that the concepts of sakinah, mawaddah, and rahmah do not merely remain slogans.

Sakinah, Mawaddah, and Rahmah, Structural-Functional, Strengthening, Family, Contemporary

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